Silence makes many people uncomfortable, particularly when learning to speak a new language. But as Graham Turner writes in The Power of Silence: The Riches That Lie Within, silence is ‘perhaps the most under-used of all resources’.
When developing English language skills, the instinct is to focus on speaking more. This seems sensible. After all, isn’t the key to mastering a new language fundamentally about speaking more?
But silence and speech work together in effective communication. Silence gives your thoughts space to develop, while speech enables you to share them.
Many language learners worry that pausing for too long might cause their listeners to lose interest or signal uncertainty. In reality, silence can make your communication stronger.
So, how can you use silence to improve your English?
Embrace the silence
In conversation, a little silence is natural. Intentional, even. Rather than rushing to fill these gaps, pause and consider whether words are necessary at this point or if silence speaks more. Being comfortable with silence will also demonstrate that you are confident in your communication.
Use pauses for impact
Whether you’re delivering a business presentation in English or responding to a question in a meeting, pause briefly before making key points or answering the question. This builds anticipation and signals to your listener that something important is about to follow.
Learn from master communicators
Consider how skilled interviewers like Louis Theroux use silence. Theroux doesn’t rush to fill gaps; he creates space where people feel encouraged to open up and share more deeply. It’s worth noting that comfort with silence varies across cultures and contexts. The key is understanding these differences while expanding your comfort level with silence and purposeful pauses.
Responding to silence thoughtfully
When someone else becomes quiet during a conversation, resist the urge to fill the silence. Instead, think about what the quiet might signify. Is the person reflecting, choosing their words, or processing information? Offering this space without pressure helps create a supportive environment and often results in deeper conversations.
A note from Your London Tutor
Space is essential for effective English language training. Space not just for practising speaking but also for listening and reflecting without feeling hurried. Our personalised English training embraces this principle by helping learners improve their conversational English skills while increasing their confidence in general communication. To learn more about our approach to language training, contact us at contact@yourlondontutor.com.
